How to choose the right therapist for you
Author: The Narcis editorial team · updated: July 14, 2026
Clinical review: a practising psychotherapist
What matters is not only the number of diplomas but professional competence and the working alliance: whether you can speak honestly, whether you feel your boundaries respected, and whether it is clear to you how this professional proposes to work.
Training and approach
Check their core education and their method (gestalt, CBT, schema therapy, and so on). You do not need to understand the method in depth — what matters is that the professional can explain plainly how they work and how it will help you specifically.
A specialisation that fits your request
If your subject is anxiety, loss, relationships, or adapting abroad, look for someone who works with it. Experience with migration-related issues and the ability to speak a language you are comfortable in can spare you a great deal of explaining.
The first impression
Therapy is sometimes emotionally uncomfortable, and that does not always mean poor contact. Something else entirely is being shamed, pressured, having your boundaries crossed, sexualised hints, financial murkiness, or fear of voicing disagreement: those signals deserve to be taken seriously.
The practical details
A convenient time, the format (video), a clear price, and honest cancellation terms. When the practical side adds no stress, it is easier to focus on what actually matters.
As long as your safety is not at stake, doubts about the contact can first be raised with the therapist. If after several meetings their style consistently does not suit you, changing professionals is a normal thing to do. Sometimes it takes two or three attempts to find your person.
If this topic resonated — you do not have to sit with it alone.
Find a therapist for this topic →This article is for information only and is not a substitute for an individual consultation with a specialist.